A letter to my surrogate, Jennifer

Parissakin postauksessa aiemmin olen maininnut minun Jenniferille kirjoittaman kirjeen, jonka annoin hänelle heti vauvojen syntymän jälkeen. Myös Jennifer mainitsi siitä omassa synnytyskertomuksessaan ja sen löydät täältä: blogit/matkalla-perheeksi/birth-told-our-surroangel.

Tämä postaus on ollut luonnoksissa jo parisen kuukautta. Ihmisten ilmoille se ei selvinnyt, koska vasta viime viikolla muistin varmistaa Jenniferiltä, että hänelle sopii se blogissa julkaista. Alla oleva teksti kun on lähes sanasta sanaan, mitä kirjoitin käsin hänelle. Ensimmäisen luonnoksen valmistelin yksinäisen, pitkän lennon aikana helmikuun lopussa, kun jännittyneenä lensin Kaliforniaan.

Aika menee niin nopeaan ja tämänkin kirjoittamisesta tuntuu olevan ikuisuus… Ja kuitenkin siitä on vain reilu pari kuukautta. Niin kuin kirjeessa kirjoitin, elämämme otti maaliskuun kolmas päivä täyskäännöksen ja aika ennen vauvoja tuntuu kaukaiselta muistolta.

Hyvää viikonloppua!

Dear Jennifer

I have been thinking about this letter a long time. Almost from the beginning of the pregnancy, once I realized how tough this journey really is to you. Not only physically, but also mentally. Not you only to you, but also to your family.

The moment you will get this letter (unless you convinced xxx to give it to you too early, as I know how curious you are! ;)) Bob and Rosa have arrived. Your journey came to an end. Ours just started.

I could imagine that you feel relieved. I could also imagine you feel a little empty. You lived with Bob and Rosa very closely the last nine months. You got annoyed by the belly. You got used to their wiggling. And now they are gone. The belly and the wiggling. That is a huge deal! Although I am sure you prepared yourself from the start for this moment, I could imagine it does feel strange. Bob and Rosa were part of your family – in good and bad – almost a year!

At the same time we have our hands full. That beautiful day we became a family. Our life took a 180 degrees turn. And the only thing we can currently see is our two newborns. Bob and Rosa. They are all that matter from now on.

I write this letter, because I want you to know that we have been thinking about everything above. That even in the moment that you might feel that now, after the birth, we only see Bob and Rosa and nothing else, we do think about you. Everything you have done for us. Everything you have gone through. Everything you are going through right now.

We want to keep you in Bob and Rosa’s lives as Aunt Jennifer! To emphasize that, we want to invite you to visit Bob and Rosa and us in Europe. Whenever you feel like – just book the flights. :)

Thank you. Thank you Jennifer.

 

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Ps. Kirjeen mukana annoimme hänelle lentolippurahat Eurooppaan.